Updated: Jan 29
During and even after the Christmas break, I was struggling yet again with a serious case of “I can’t be arsed”. Even though I’m generally a productive and driven person, this has been a recurring theme throughout my adult life and one I have really battled with. And one I had never understood until experiencing it again recently.
As I have mentioned before, over the past year while coaching with Lianne and diving into the world of personal development, a huge focus for me has been to embrace a more feminine energy and learn to go with the flow and listen to my body instead of going full speed ahead and powering through. It's been a huge learning curve for me.
Just before Christmas however I fell back into old habits and spent several weeks working flat out so I could take some time off over the holiday period. When I finally got some time to slow down and take a break, I crashed hard. I found a very strong resistance in myself to do anything at all. Even things I love and that nourish me like spending time with my family, practicing yoga, cooking, reading, working on creative projects. I literally resisted anything apart from being an absolute potato. And it didn’t feel good.
I recognised that same familiar feeling of resistance. After doing some work with my notebook, I realised that this was my body's way of keeping me safe. When I work in this way I put my mind and body under enormous amounts of pressure and the reaction of resistance is my body's way of forcing me to slow down and to keep me safe. There is definitely a major lack of trust with myself and not listening to my body when its telling me to stop!
This January, in our membership our focus is on creating new habits which has been a great way for me to start off the year after this realisation. Instead of jumping back into the new year with big plans and ideas and commitments to myself I know I wont keep. I have instead chosen to be more compassionate with myself and to listen to my body. I have slowly eased back into work, making extra time for self care. I am choosing to build trust with myself and to keep everything light and joyful. There’s a huge part of me that is yearning to push forward and do more and another part of me that is feeling guilty for not doing that too. I have found that using EFT and the Temporal Tapping Technique in my daily practice have been fantastic tools that help me let go of my resistance and to embody more ease and flow.
New behaviours become habits by repetition. The more you show up and reaffirm what you are creating, the more you strengthen the neuro pathways of this behaviour in your brain. Eventually, it becomes an automatic program and a part of who you are. I am already finding that I feel happier, more productive and more motivated than I've been in a long time.
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